Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

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Sandi2

Thanks for the post - that makes me feel better. Only now am I getting to the point where I let her complaints sting a little less. I'm never quite sure where I'm at.

In the above quote - How do I things in a 180/last resort manner with respect to the kids. If she is really leaving then the kids and I better GAL and start doing things without her. Right now, I say "We are doing this do you want to come..." or if she says let's all watch a movie - after she does not show in 15 min, I pick the movie and turn it on. We are not waiting for you and we will GAL.

But, I'm trying to do the opposite of what used to happen too and sometimes that conflicts with the GAL. I know I have to keep trying things until something works. I just don't know what's working?

Any thoughts about larger family events? She seems to want to spend time with my family, even willing to cook for them this Easter Sunday. Many of them think that's odd. Also, they think I should not put up with her having your cake too.

Again, this is what used to happen she would work hard and entertain the family - that was normal. What should we do in the GAL and 180? Should we say - don't come - your leaving remember or Nobody wants to come to our house because they think it's weird?

What's the approach - status quo or do something different? but at what cost???

Help !!!