I getcha G! I was always raised to believe everything was my fault (Mom!). My R with SDA lady has been over for over 2 years and at times I still blame myself ...if only I'd tried harder, been more accepting 'cuz nobody's perfect, I hurt her badly so I'm a bad person blah blah blah. That stuff sticks with you but you just try to recognize when it's happening that it's not reality, just sh*t. That doesn't mean that we don't look at our relationships and see where we could have done better but we also have to be loving to ourselves...and that means giving ourselves the same understanding we give everyone else! Being loving means loving ourselves too
