What I don't understand is why you did it and immediately say it's a cheap lesson learned.
It is only learned when you actually start handling it in a different manner.
Hey Sandi,
This is very conflicting for me, probably a little emotional last night. She has been requesting this since the start of S, originally I didn't wanted to not enable her by simply giving to her. However; now she has essentially figured out a way to do it and it is fair for her at this point be able to have something to make a home for my kids while there. I know this won't bring her any closer to coming home, but if I continued to hold out it would be pointless and only look spiteful and controlling. Also, probably something she wasn't expecting me to do.
I also kind of see this as a sign of progress with detaching and one step closer to dropping the rope.
I guess the lesson learned is I haven't yet learned. Thank you for calling me out on that.
