I didn't take the high road today

[mvg]

So, there may be some journaling for a bit...this is getting tough.

XW and I agreed for her to pickup S5/S2 today at 12:30 at my house. We also agreed that they would eat lunch at my house so that they could get back to her house by 1PM for S2 naptime. At 12:15, I had lost track of time at the playground with the boys and we stopped at grocery store 2 blocks from my house to grab something for lunch. At 12:30 on the dot, XW calls and asks where we are. I explained the situation. Her response for me was to "wait there and she'd pick them up in the parking lot."

I said the boys were really hungry and was there something I could pick up for her at the store for lunch, inviting her for lunch. I said I was going to throw some stuff on the grill for the kids (it's beautiful today) and I would need only ten extra minutes...and that if she was in such a hurry, they could eat in the car.

Her response was that she had planned on taking them to lunch and that they would not be eating at my house.

Well that's when I had enough. We agreed that they would eat with me and she was lying.

Regardless...being the doormat that I am, I put all of the food back and returned to my home with S5/S2. When we got there I told XW that I only asked for 10 minutes and that we agreed for them to eat with me. Her response? "We agreed that you'd feed them by 12:30....you didn't, so now we're leaving."

I said if you acknowledge that we agreed for me to feed them, how can you argue that you need to leave right now bc you planned on taking them to lunch? I asked her to please stop with the power moves and it's only hurting the kids. S5/S2 were in the car at the time, but I definitely was speaking louder than I normally do.

She said the kids are the most important thing in the world to her and to not accuse her of otherwise. I decided to remind her that next week on her spring break from work, she is deciding to go to Chicago with her boyfriend instead of spending her time off with the kids. Well that didn't go well.

About ten minutes after she left, I got slammed with text messages.

"I'm dealing with two kids who want to know why Daddy is so mean to mommy, hope you're proud of yourself."

"You are a deplorable person who just told your kids mother that she is a scumbag." (I never said that)

"You swore you never wanted this life for your children, how said for you that you have chosen this path.'

"I hope you realize the damage you are doing to the children you claim to love so much."

There are more but I'll spare you.

I have to admit, I feel completely f****d. I really don't see how I won't be under this woman's thumb for the rest of my life. I let her walk all over me out of fear that she will pull the kids from activities here in my town where the go to school. This fear is paralyzing. I let her "win" to keep her happy, hoping that she won't use the boys as currency.