Mozza's own success story

[Mozza]

Thanks for your visit, raliced!

That certainly stings that you are on the hook for your ex's unemployment. Are you going to wait until the subject comes up or have an upfront talk with her about it - I say this with curiosity as the person who never has a frank discussion with my ex about anything.

I can't talk to my STBX either. I avoid contacts as much as possible and it pains me to know that I'll have to interact forever. Looking inside, I think I'm trying to punish her by ignoring her -- it's painful to be ignored and she ignored me a lot before and during BD. I might be getting back at her for that. Otherwise, as I said above, I'd rather starve any emotion I have for her and certainly don't want to express the anger I have towards her.

So, no, I'm not going to talk about it with her until she figures it out and makes a proposal. I don't want to create a preemptive fight, in case she has the wisdom to avoid asking me for money. She already laid the ground for such a request however, telling me that she needs the money. I'll have to respond in writing to choose my words carefully... My short point will be: I'll have to dig into my savings to pay you, why don't you dig into your own?

Bu something happened yesterday: she made a mistake that created a 500$ bill with the mediation lawyer. She recognized her error and offered to pay the bill. I suspect that are parents are paying for the D. She just lost her job and was always tight, so I can't imagine she has an extra 500$ for this.

I hope you have a lovely vacation with NG. I find having something to look forward to really helps my mindset. My ex MIL (need to come up with a better name for her) and I are going to take my girls to the big island of Hawaii this summer and I find myself doing a little happy research every night.

Absolutely: I'm not a fan of surprises precisely because I prefer to revel in the anticipation. I just booked the vacation a month in advance and I'll be dreaming of sea, sand, sun and a certain girl in a bikini (or not) until then. Hawaii is a great destination! It's where I got engaged and NG has been twice already and really wants to go back. I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time!