Jb, not much to add that the other vets have not said. Two weeks in to my S already. Trying to be very unavailable and have her thinking. Trying to GAL and stay busy. Still have those days when your gut is so knotted but they are getting better.

I have found that the more interaction I have with W the worse I feel after. I guess because of thoughts of what could be. I also dont feel quite right being completely unavailable either. Trying to find the balance.

The only problem I have with being completely unavailable is, how does anything progress without WAW feeling that they can communicate with you? It's a razor fine line I think.

Good luck. We are all here if needed.


Fight the good fight no matter the quality of your opponent.

Me-50 WAW-45
S13
Married 24 years
Bomb 1-Jan.2008
Disc. EA
She came back for 8 years
Bomb 2-Jan-2016
Separation 3-12-2016