The problem with in-house separation is that the couple are not separated! They are thrown together under one roof and abiding as one family unit. Usually, there are no ground rules, except maybe not sleeping together. That is not a real separation, IMO.
It is more like the WW having her cake and eating it, too. If you say anything about what she is doing, where she's going, etc., she screams you are S! However, she still expects to have all the privileges of being in the M, such as staying in her nice home and enjoying family togetherness, even having you to cater to her mood swings or give her hugs when she needs them.
In-house S is on the WW's terms, not the LBH. She is still in charge and calling the shots. And, I am still looking for a successful reconciliation with a WW from in-house separation. At best, they result in living like roommates and the H settles for being her friend.
We have seen couples R after physical S. Sure, there is going to be the initial time she enjoys the freedom and space. However, if you make yourself unavailable, the chances of her missing you will be much greater in physical S. It's something about a woman seeing the man she dumped doing much better than she ever imagined. He is active. He looks great. And, he seems happy! Somehow, it hits home with her that he could be so happy without her being the center of his universe. She realizes the single life is not what she thought it would be. She starts to reevaluate what she really wants.
I just have not seen any of those things happening in an in-house S.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
