Tim, No problem. It doesn't help for sure to be the guy who she needs to jump when she says, it seems like it does but no. In my case, my wife also hides behind the fact that she does so much for so many other people, so I think part of her reasoning and decision making to stray would be that. I can't know what is in her head, but if I had to guess it went something like this "I do so much good things for so many people and my H is xx (fill in the blank) I deserve this for myself.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
