The separation is not the end, Everything in my sitch is set up for us to have two houses now once the current one sells.
I have not been thinking its the end. It has taken a lot of pressure off the sitch. And yes I realize that it may end in D but it is also a chance for something new to evolve. And because we are DBing and have kids you will always have contact and W will be in a situation to be able to see your DBing progress.
You said nothing is moving forward with the separation. Is W happy with that or is she still saying that living with you is not a true separation?
I agree to hold off and let her do the work. I also thought that W was moving ahead with the separation work. If she does then you also do what work you need to do for your side. For me I held off until W sent a letter from a lawyer that either I worked on a separation agreement or W was going to take me to court. I started to work on the S agreement by seeing a lawyer first. Then we worked out the bulk of the issues. W lawyer wrote up the agreement. Now I just have to see my lawyer to sign it.
My W could not see my changes because she was so worked up about getting a S agreement. now that is out of the way she can see me and my changes.
Where is your W now with the way it is in the house?
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
