It is so hard because I have always jumped when she said to jump
I believe this would be a great area to 180! The person who is saying, "Jump", is the one controlling the relationship. Personally, I don't think it is a good thing for a man to jump every time his W snaps her fingers. It is too easy for the respect level to get out of focus for her. Eventually, she begins talking down to him, or sound as if she is his parent. She becomes spoiled. She begins to sound as if she is giving orders, instead of making requests. Granted, some women are smart enough to disguise it, but still the husband's position becomes more subservient.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
