Trust me, it took me about a month to have it sink in that she did initiate it. Her problem is that she occasionally has difficulty translating goals into actions. I'm the opposite to a fault so when I watch her, I get frustrated. It's like trying to watch your kids hunt for easter eggs and seeing them miss the eggs that are right in front of them.

The other problem I'm having is that I'm not seeing any action like mine or the LDWs here. I would love to see her approach it like the others but she is simply a different kind of person. She's seems to keep very quiet but is showing results.

How would I like working for a boss that badgered me over my process instead of just giving me a deadline and expectations? That's what I'm having trouble with. The more I act like that, the less motivated she will be to work on the issues because she will see me as a-hole instead of a desirable, suckable guy.

Note: She is receptive to the playful notes and we are using the scratch-off cards like you mentioned. However, I wish I would have found the Laura Corn book before the cards. They have a similar system and she's really upbeat.

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