Dave, I can't tell you how jealous I am that your wife initiated the LD recovery. Wow! That's huge. Not to read too much into it, or get hopes up too much, but sounds like maybe she'd be responsive to a "light" approach like little love games or something. You know, each write a number of desires down on slips of paper, put 'em in a hat, and each draw one, or take turns. Now fulfill that wish. Or the kind of thing Dave36 was talking about with his W a week or so ago.
Is there a pattern to the refusal thing when you initiate? How often are your advances accepted? I wish you all the best...
