Ghost Busting - Time to accept what is happening

[Sotto]

Hi Ghost - so you say you're in no hurry to move things forward but realise you need to be strong and take control of this.

Do you mean separating. Yes, if you've decided you guys need to separate (and posters would seem to concur) then start to make your own plans. As a general rule, I would take control of any areas needed to get you and the family settled and sorted. Those would include housing, financial and custody/visitation arrangements.

For me, I've tried to be solid and pro active in terms of self-preservation/protection of myself - getting due legal advice and holding out for a fair division of our assets. However, in terms of divorce - having told H that isn't what I want - I have merely reacted. I sit back and let those event be led by him, I'm advised by my L and I respond. Because it isn't 'my' divorce, it's 'his.'

Hope this helps a little - I guess I'm just saying. Get to a point of clarity on your game plan and understand where you need to take a lead and where you will leave your W to move things along (or not.)

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