I don't know what I mean by do nothing, but I do know that i love my kids. She is and always will be their mother and this is a path that she feels she must take and I cannot change that.
As Sandi said, " As for just giving her some money b/c she's having a tough time, I would not advise it"
I do not believe that is what i am doing, but i do believe that this is fair even though not 100% DB'ing. WW has gotten her place without any assistance from me, but it does need to be a home for when my kids are there. Is this "Mr. Nice guy" justification, I don't know. I do know that this is probably a 180 from what WW expected. I don't know, maybe she thinks I'm just putty in her hands, but this is fair and what's right for my kids. I love her, I love my kids. Once there is a D in process things will be different, but this was a chance to show compassion for her choice and not be controlling. I don't think she was expecting it. I just told her, " that she was the mother of my children and I didn't want to see her struggle or begging for the basics" <--probably not the best DB'ing, but I didn't ask anything of her and when she tried to tell me what she needed the $$ for, I told her that she didn't need to explain it to me. This is also a 180 for a me as I generally ask 10 questions to get one answer.
Welp, tomorrow is going to be tough as we have the "Talk" with kids. Doing a lot of research online how to tell them, but open to any wisdom on how to explain two homes to kids. I think we should not say the D word, just that mommy will have a house and so will daddy.
