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Rich,

I'm still headed for D.

Told the kids D14 and S12 when I found out about the affair.
Told both of them and D7 when the D started.

D7 cried, and was very sad. Has had some issues at school, but counselor is talking with her every week. W and I don't fight, hardly talk anymore, I moved all my stuff to the basement, looking for a condo right now.

If wife is unreasonable to you and even her lawyer, you might want to tell daughter on her own - in case you wife spins the narrative that you're the sole cause for the D. I'm not a socialworker though, so I'd ask the vets on this board.

Once D7 found out, she has been ok with things - even went with me to see the condo I'm looking at. As long as she gets equal mom/dad time, and I'm trying to live as close as possible, it should make the transition as easy as possible. Not that the D won't put huge hurdles for my kids in the future - some are for me to tackle, some are for God. Just trying to make it day to day.