I have a question? Now that I am detaching, moving on with or without her... I think we still have a conversation coming. The ball is in her court right now as far as talking about the A (A's) Do I have that conversation?

If so I thought if she starts it I need to tell her this:
What I need from you right now is to be completely honest with me, you have nothing to lose, I am moving on with or without you. I need to know that if you are having an A currently that it has to stop now. You told me that you where willing to do whatever it takes to make this marriage work. Think long and hard about your answers and confession, I don't even want to hear it now, I can be patient..for only so long though.
Then leave it at that?

M 21 years
XW 43yo, me 41 yo
S13
BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient...
End of June - I started the D process.
D final 2/23/17
"He who forgets will be destined to remember"
Eddie Vedder