WW wants me to give her a reason, and I'm just like, " because that's how D works". I want to tell her that I don't trust her and that if she changes her mind once she blows the cash, it could be a problem for me....NOT going to say that though OR should I be honest? Just going to keep it @ Because that's how it works, but I feel like that is a really cold answer. Is that just the "Mr. Nice Guy" in me for feeling like that is cold?
"I have learned I cannot trust you. If you want a divorce, this is how it works".
Quote:
"I understand that it must be tough with the situation you have chosen, but I have told you that I will not facilitate this divorce (I think she wants the cash to file). When you contiune to request this, it makes me feel as though you do not respect my position on this subject. If you continue to ask for the settlement outside of the legal process I will not reply to text and will end the conversation if we are talking"
If you are setting a boundary to protect yourself emotionally, then don't make it about her. Don't try to turn a boundary statement into validation.
Personally, I don't see the point, but I guess that's just me. I think it would be more effective to just respond with, "In order to protect myself, I have decided to follow the legal process".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
