WW is really wanting her settlement now before she even files. Terms are agreeable, BUT L said that even if we had an agreement in writing it was questionable if it would hold up in the D if WW decided to change her mind for whatever reason. WW hasn't filed yet, and I keep telling her that I will follow the process of how a D works and am not comfortable otherwise.
WW wants me to give her a reason, and I'm just like, " because that's how D works". I want to tell her that I don't trust her and that if she changes her mind once she blows the cash, it could be a problem for me....NOT going to say that though OR should I be honest? Just going to keep it @ Because that's how it works, but I feel like that is a really cold answer. Is that just the "Mr. Nice Guy" in me for feeling like that is cold?
I would like to just get this done, but I really don't trust this person that she has become, so selfish. She says she needs the money to live, but she is the one who chose to make monetary commitments before she has income coming in. I am going to set a clear boundary along the lines of:
"I understand that it must be tough with the situation you have chosen, but I have told you that I will not facilitate this divorce (I think she wants the cash to file). When you contiune to request this, it makes me feel as though you do not respect my position on this subject. If you continue to ask for the settlement outside of the legal process I will not reply to text and will end the conversation if we are talking"
Should I drop the validation or "Sitch you have chosen" part?
