I read the posts here and there is a lot of discussion about and A and the perspectives about how to handle it. But what struck me the most is that Collin rarely posts anything about it.
What is going on in this thread???
Collin, you need to post often and all the folks here can give you some input and opinions of how to go about your crisis, otherwise you are just getting opinions that may not even be what you need or want to hear right now.
To be able to help in any direction you want to take your sitch, we all need to hear what is really going on.
For instance we know:
1. Your wife is tired of a selfish H and is leaving you because of that. 2. You love, and always loved your wife but never walked too steps closer and let her know that by words or actions. 3. She said she has no A and wants to live her single life and date. 4. You get mad at her and then get mad at yourself for doing things that makes you mad at her.
What is the exact point here ????
IMO, knowing is good because you won't feel like in denial or something like a lose screw in your head. Going in circles trying to figure it out why, why, why. But, for many LBS, including Christians, it does not change what you need to do for yourself.
What about looking at the steps you need to take for yourself, independent of her having an A or not?
First, and most important, you need to post here. Detail your point of view, your history, what is going on now, kind of contact, how was life 5 years ago, how it deteriorate, things you want to change in yourself, your GAL, your situation if she file for D, and so on.
Collin, all these folks are talking to each other and you are just reading it. How about writing it all and then you will get the advice you can benefit the best in your case?
DB is not to just use some tricks to get your spouse back, it is a direction to make yourself better and in a way to attract your spouse back because they see "by your actions" that you are someone worthy to give a chance and try again.
You said you took your M for granted and regret it. Don't take your chance to change and be a better you for granted, you may well be crying about it later.
I hope I did not offend you with my words, but I really believe that you need to step forward and start posting.
