Yikes! I'm sorry to hear about your ride with D4, but am so relieved for you that it's treatable. My D19 is severely farsighted, but I guess her other problems make me think that's wimpy? Sheesh, I might have to reevaluate that. Anyway, I'm so happy for you that it's not life threatening.

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I don't understand why being with her equates to being a distant and grumpy jacka** with me, but it does.


Raliced, in my experience here on the BB, this is fairly normal for one undoubtedly common reason: now that you're divorced, there is a good chance OW is putting pressure on him to make things more permanent. It's a lot easier to take this out on you (especially if he blames you for the demise in your R, as stupid as that is) than it is to take it up with her. Rosalinda has a lot of experience with this dynamic, so hopefully she'll weigh in here.

I'll go ahead and tell you how things work for me, nearly 11 years later: when Mr. Wonderful is dating someone, he's crappy with me. When he's not dating someone, he's agreeable. I can always tell when things have cooled off with others. What's totally stupid is that his GF's have issues with his R with me. Even though he's usually kind of surly and not wanting to grant me favors when that's the case? I guess I'm grateful that his stance has been through the years that our R works for us and for our girls, and that if they don't like it, they can hit the road. Actually, I've had to say the same thing to guys I've dated. They tend to believe that being cooperative and cordial means we want to get back together. It's insane.

Anyway, I'm not surprised your XH is crappier than usual. You can do what one of my old friends here used to do when she came up against stuff that didn't make sense: she'd say, "Isn't that interesting?" grin Face it, so much they do or say doesn't make sense...

Hugs from another farsighted person.

"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."

Albert Einstein