Depressed to WW

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I decided to start a topic here because yesterday I found in my W's diary an entry saying she was falling in love with OM. Obviously I feel sick!!!

Let me start with just a bit of the background on how this started. Feb 2nd was the BD. This came on the heels of a pretty happy (so it appeared) Dec. She threw me a surprise Bday party and took me away for the weekend, just the 2 of us. Within a month or so she is telling me she is done.

She has a history of depression, self confindence issues, keeps her feelings guarded so she doesn't get hurt and commitment isssues steming back from her childhood when we meet and dated (all of which she admits in her diary). I should say I've know her since I was 10. Started dating in high school. So I know (or knew) her pretty well.

I added the above because I don't know if that effects how I handle a WW. Maybe everyone can advise on that.

We have a family trip next week. Yes, next week. We planned it months ago and when she told me, she said she wanted to give the kids 1 last happy vacation before telling them. We leave this Sat for Fl.

The OM is someone who she knew in her 20's. Old friend who has appearently been after her for years through FB etc. It seems he finally getting her to listen. Although I keep getting reminded it takes 2.

So I believe this didn't start over OM, but rather her commitment/depression etc., and has now included OM. (Maybe the order is different than what I think)

Need some advice on how to handle/act on this vacation with the family and how to move forward. Thanks!