WAS or what (6)

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I'll take time next week to update my thoughts etc but in essence not much to report in my situation. No news is good news, or so they say.

Anyway I have a little question.It is nothing urgent but something I would like your input on to be sure I am handling it right.

We seem to be surrounded by couples splitting. A sad reality. Many of these couples have kids, the same age as ours. This is the case of our neighbours who recently broke up.

My sons especially the eldest reflects on this and often has comments like
"It's a catastrophe all the families breaking up"
" I wonder who'll be next"
"It's not good for their son for this to happen"

Such comments I usually deal with easily and can discusiin general.But every now and again there is the odd comment specifically about us. I don't think he sees our problems but is more a general reflection of his thinking, as the same occurs relating to illness/death.

If I am alone with him/them I am more open with my replies.I reassure that it is not planned and I think we are best together. I do not go heavy on my feelings/thoughts, but reply honestly my view point. I am careful not to state categorically that we will not split up. I also use these times to access their thinking.

If my W is there too, I try to be more weighed with my words. This weekend after we had a big special dinner which W prepared including my favorite dessert, my son made a comment that if we split up I wouldn't be able to cook.I choose to reassure him and said "that wouldn't worry me and I'd manage just fine" . W supported this reply by adding I can cook very well.

OK we reassured his fear, though I think it was just a comment without much depth for him. But for me that was not the big part of his comment. I don't want to discuss our problems with them until we are at the point of no return or imminent split. But I am not sure brushing it under the table is best either.

Any thoughts?