Rednail- Me, Myself, and I

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Red,

Sounds like you keep doing things so he notices, or you do things for yourself, but also for him.

Detaching means you're walking to the beat of your OWN drum. His drums have no effect on you. From your posts, he still has great effect on you.

He's still with OW, you're going to need to find the strength to start walking your own walk.

Find the reasons to do this for YOU. for your kids. And let his chips fall where they may. Your life is precious. Rise up, flip the switch to ON permanently. Never let the switch go off. Make those changes you can now, and plan for changes in the future. SWITCH UP!

You can do this, Red. Please don't continue to give him control over your ship. Steer your ship.