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The GAL thing for me is difficult. I have had a life..totally I ride my bike regularly, go to the gym, have beers with friends, go to work functions, go fishing etc.. Possibly just naturally why she keeps coming back to me, we have had run-ins in the past like this, and I continue to move on and get a life. This evidence that I have recently uncovered is pretty incriminating, proving a true affair, the past it was quick clues that I shouldn't have ignored. So after finding it and confronting her, I have been a mess, an absolute mess! So it has only been a few days since I found it, just got done with a shrink (for myself).
So for me I need to sweep up my mess and get back on the horse, but a couple of things I need to add is to start going to Church, and to quit drinking beer and lose some weight, I have put on a few this last year and need to get rid of that.

We do have one son, so the texting and emails - I will only respond if it in regards to that, it is important to me that he gets the care he needs from his parents.

Do I quit saying love you? what if she says it first?

The other GAL action is not to care what she is doing, what her schedule is and where she is, when will she be home. I will just stop caring about that. For one I can't trust a word of it, so letting go will help with the heartache...