I getting so confused, the support here is telling me one thing and it feels like my IC is telling me another. This was my latest response from him:
I know there is an element of overlap and I feel his approach would be seen for a WAW, it just seems to be a little conflicting to a WW. As I have read here, she needs to feel some rejection, that I don't just bow down to her whim, that she needs to feel that I'm not always available when she reaches out.... Any thoughts as I am a little confused
I believe it depends upon who talks to you, their beliefs, the role they have, the experience they have........and their approach to your situation. There are some differences in viewpoints here on the board, so just imagine the wide span in differences out in the field of counseling. You won't get the same approach from an IC that you would probably get from your Pastor. This IC sounds as if he is analyzing your W according to popular or common physchology. That might be all well and good if she wasn't wayward. If your IC does not understand the mindset of a WW, you are wasting your money.
I think you just have to make a decision which way you want to go and let the other one go.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
