Thanks for that advice! I will take it! I wonder how I can get my hands on the book...as of now we are under the same roof and committed to making this work somehow. I will just have to devise a plan, perhaps a friend can order it for me.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder