Thanks to everyone for stopping by.
I do feel like I've been doing the work for almost 5 months now. I've finished a Rebuilding (when your relationship ends) 10 week seminar, I've read books on listening and improving communication,and healing from infidelity. I've reflected, I've made new friends, I've gotten out there and stayed active hiking and biking and swimming. And yesterday W texted me that she's reading a book by the Dalai Lama, and enjoyed the first chapter so much she thought I might like it too. (That's kind of huge for her to take a spiritual journey.)
I'm not ready to move back home yet (yes, I want to, but I won't!). I'm still going to take my trip to California on Friday to celebrate my birthday with my dear friend out there. I'm still living my life. But as TxHubby says, I'm ready to be brave, too. W and I are both being cautious, and at the very least I think it's time to engage bravely, especially when she's reaching out.

All along I've believed: We are not done. I've never stopped loving her. I believe she's never stopped loving me. We just both got caught up in something that we needed to have happen -- something to shake us both up so we'd see what we had. And how it could be better.

I still don't know if we will reconcile. If we do, I don't know if it will work. But I'm ready to try. As soon as she is.

Keep offering advice. I appreciate it.

11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat