Hi Tim, thanks for that.
The "shrink" friend the W is seeing is the type of person that helps her work through what she's doing - and feel better about it. So no resolution will come from what she's doing, she's just going to feel less stress.

I think with the distance I've had these last couple of months I've had a chance to finally look at things more objectively. I suppose if there were a chance for R, I would have a pretty good idea of what I'd need out of her, which is a heck of a lot. I also am seeing what I need to do to improve myself. Sadly, I was well on track for a lot of that. I need to continue.

I think the hardest part for me now is I've got to come to the realization that nothing is going to stop the process she's started. It's no longer in our hands - that's how the system is rigged. There's no "hold" button, it goes forward. The fight is only going to get uglier as I watch somebody I care about self-destruct. It's very sad. It's almost like watching somebody commit suicide. She's killing who she used to be, and I think convincing herself that this is a positive path.

All I can do is focus on what I'm going to be on the other side at this point. And come to terms with not recognizing the W any longer.


Me: 58
Her: 59
Kids: 0
Dog: 1
ILYBINILWY: 9/15
D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed)
Verified OM: 1/11/16
Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)