How will TP get the benefits if husband has not acknowledged his role and taken any responsibility for his actions? It's really only a matter of time. And if not it won't matter, because you will be happy regardless.
Let's focus on who we want to be as a person. Do we want to be the one capable of walking away from spouse and kids for another person or to focus on their career or the one capable of raising children as a single parent and enjoying life and making the most of what we have? I have said this before. I would never want to be my husband. I would never want to be the person that chose to abandon.
It's funny, I think my desire for fairness is what caused a lot of the problems in my relationship with husband. I was always thinking about why I was right and things were not fair for me instead of of looking out for the marriage as a whole And instead of looking at all the good things I had going for me.
Right now I am trying to accept things as they are and just look at the positives of my current situation as is.
