One idea I always toyed with if WAW asked for a second chance would be this- let's just be single for a while. In other words, I would be open to R...but only if we can cruise through life for a year without jumping back into a relationship.
The idea would be this- if you, mrs. walk away wife, mrs. I want to chase the EA/PA and find my happiness in the arms of someone else...if you can't stand the thought of being alone, and so you want to jump back with me now, but that if I won't race back to try to make you happy, then you can't hold on and you'll have to run to someone else...then I don't want to waste my time. I would only be interested if she'd grown up, had taken responsibility for her own happiness, and had learned to be on her own. If she couldn't handle a while on her own without medicating, then she'd feel unfulfilled in any new M shortly anyway, and I'm not going to invest energy into someone looking for a lifetime honeymoon phase, because reality don't work that way.
I'm not sure if I would've 'required' that, but that was where I felt I'd need to go. Doesn't matter because WAW is now XW and not looking back, but even if she did, I don't know that she'd pass the test of time anyway. And I am worth more than to subject myself to this crap again. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice...
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
