Way Too Late Pt 3

[TimR]

Hey 1313, it has been awhile since you posted. Your story could have been any one of us. My WW said awful stuff to about sex. In fact she went as far as calling me a 'fag' but I know and remember the truth. I was the one begging to be with my wife. However rejection after rejection made my attempts less and less. Sad thing is you hear things you just cannot unhear during their spewing. They are our wives and know how to hurt at the time they enjoy it. IMHO.

Friends are a double edge sword. You want to save the relationship yet in being truthful you harm chances of reconciling. It is hard to make that call, who do you tell, who do you not tell, how much do you tell and how do you put it to terms. Are you angry, are you passive IDK. To me that is such an individual decision.

Then there is the decision of do you want your WW back. That is something we all must struggle with. It is apparent in everyone's thread. I will admit I have the same thoughts very often. I do not think it is an issue with love but rather an issue of pain. If we give up maybe the pain goes away quicker... makes sense. If we get angry and lash out there is no room for pain at the moment. It is easier to live our lives angry than it is in despair. It gives us back control because we are choosing to end it, at least in our minds.

You have a lot of good points but these are things we must search our souls for.

Keep up the good fight and don't lose yourself in it.