Sooo, reading some threads and I feel like an idiot. Can I get some clarify if R talks are a no no, or ok...I know I am not supposed to start them, but should I try to validate her feelings without being a doormat if she starts one ?
Or Follow a dialog similar to above and be mysterious?
Is validation just supposed to be used to deescalate when needed?
Should I only validate when something new is mentioned by her and not just more of the same? My mind is a pretzel.
Also, hope Squiggy is well. Haven't head from him in a bit.
