HaWho has given you some very wise advice. Your h has a lot of anger and he's projecting it on to you. I think you did a good job of listening and validating. Try not to allow him to rattle you. The calmer you are, the better for the both of you.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
