When a woman starts trying to put words in your mouth.....look out. It is a trap! Do not start arguing with her or try to convince of anything. Just play your best poker face the entire time she is ratteling off nonsense. Give very vague responses. I'm not that great at dialogs, but maybe this will give an idea of what I mean.
HER: You must want a divorce. YOU: Oh? HER: Yeah, b/c you don't act like you are trying to work on things. YOU: Maybe you have the right idea. HER: So it's true, you want a divorce?! YOU: I just know this situation is not working for me.
HER: Well, I'm scared and I just don't know if I would ever be able to trust you again. YOU: (silence) HER: I mean my anxiety level goes up just thinking about it. YOU: (silence) HER: Even if we D, we can still take time to work on ourselves and "tons of people S or D and end up back together". YOU: Not this guy. HER: If you feel that way then fine, I guess that is how it will be but I need to continue with the D.now. I need this time to work on myself" YOU: Maybe you are right.
You handle yourself with a ton of confidence. Do not act pitiful or sad. Just a strong, confident man who does need her in order to be happy.
You didn't preach to her, no repeated performances of how you didn't want a divorce, no pursuing, and you were not trying to talk her out of filing. This could be the first step in you becoming the guy she can't have so easily anymore. You become a challenge, and women love it. And of course, she'll have to temp check you again.
Thanks for the example. Short and sweet, just what I was looking for. Calm, cool, collected and confident.
I was stating to think it is redundant and almost pathetic to continue to state I don't want the D. That's exactly what she wants to hear. Also, I think after you make your point know, it just seems like pursuing or opens up the conversation to a bunch of areas that you probably shouldn't go.
