He was already in depression when MLC hit. Depressionis the main ingredient of MLC. The depression stage that we speak of here is a very dark depression and one that he will just go off by himself and will withdraw from everything for a long period of time. What he is doing right now is very typical. He is doing things very similar to HaWho's h, i.e., teenager behavior.
He may be suffering from a little bit of "affair" withdrawal right now. I wouldn't push too much about the access of the cell phone unless he is ready to call it quits w/his affair partner and is ready to reconcile. I, personally, don't think he's there yet, especially if he is still confused. Just let him be for a while. You can't rush the process and the affair, if there is one, has to die a slow death all by itself.
Try to keep the focus on you. If you allow your mind to wander about what he's doing and w/whom all of the time, you will go nuts.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
