Thanks fellas. Yeah the good thing is I am in control. I don't need her in my life...I just want her in my life but there is no way in hell I'll let her know that. We only need things we need...things we just want we can live without. So I don't care if another year goes by. She's obviously watching me somehow otherwise she wouldn't know of my "cute girlfriends" that she mentions. So I'm kind of not worried about it either way. I'm so used to her not being around that I don't dread daily life anymore.

I will say I do still believe that one day she is going to want to come back...and at that time she's going to have A LOT of work to do proving herself worthy of me...that is if I'm not happily involved with someone new by then.

I basically just want to relay to her that there are NO TIES between us at all anymore. We never had kids...so there's really no reason for her to be involved in my life's events. Sure deaths are one thing, but she is always saying how I'm on her mind a lot and that she thinks of me often. Well my stance on that is simply STOP! You walked out and divorced me nearly two years ago!!! If you are STILL thinking about your ex-husband two years later...you have serious issues. I never contact her at all...it's always her that contacts me. She still had my last me which I also don't get since there's no kids involved. So it's clear to me she still struggles with her emotions for me and I agree with Thornton...she's not over me yet. In fact it shocks me because even though I was the dumpee, I truly think I am getting along better without her. I don't need to text her periodically as she does me. I don't get reports from mutual friends about her "cute boyfriends" because I don't care. Whomever she is with is not as good as me. Yet she knows all about my life's goings on and I find that strange nearly two years later.

So my sense is she is still not at peace with our divorce in spite of her claims to the contrary. She has had every opportunity to leave me alone...I certainly never contact her yet every now and again, sure enough, I have an incoming text from her. There's no ties and no reason for it. She should've been gone by now as far as contacting me goes. I don't bother her, so she needn't bother with me either.


ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14