So you didn't say if you accepted the maggot's friend request Sorry couldn't help it.
Originally Posted By: Vanilla
Perhaps Zeph if you see yourself as an embryonic vet, that you consider that there is so much to learn and that coming to terms with this is YOUR journey, YOUR growth, YOUR wonderment, YOUR higher power.
This is not selfish, it is self-centred.
This is detaching beyond your sitch. It is allowing others to take from your posts what they will. I learned a very important lesson recently, very important, that was that others have the right to disagree and dismiss although they do not have the right to abuse or invalidate.
Hey V, I have thought about this post for a while. I do not consider myself any sort of Vet or will I ever get there, who knows. I try to help where I can, I just don't think that I've been able to devote the kind of time to the community that is necessary. I am barely able to keep my own head above water sometimes. I've only been able to really focus on a few sitch's and when those people fade away from the boards it is difficult to pick up and start fresh with others.
There are many I've never posted on their threads, because I can't go back and reread the entire history. I will continue to read them when I can.
As for learning, I have a ton to learn about abusive pasts, MLC, and marriage in general. I know there is soooooo much more to learn and I have made it one of my goals to continue to read new materials on these topics. Job listed a thread of suggested materials. now I know I will never get through that whole thing, but I will keep looking at it and grabbing new suggestions as I finish others.
One thing I was hoping to gain clarity on from your post...maybe I am overreading, maybe I am thick and I missed your point...self-centered to me always had a pretty severe, negative connotation...almost to the point, nearing narcissistic.
Sorry couldn't help it.