My story job 9140 (3)

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jb9140, IMO don't do anything to facilitate or help your WW in anything she does from here forward. You've got your kids to worry about - they're going to feel bad enough being abandoned by their Mother. Plus, it looks like you're splitting them so much they're going to feel like ping-pong balls. Your L will need to sort that out into a decent schedule.

My WW was irresponsible up to a point, with rampant spending which she called "striking out". So while I was pinching pennies, juggling credit cards etc. she was funneling money into a private bank account. She was the primary bread winner - I never would have denied her anything. But that was just sick and mean.

She's responsible when it comes to her business, and then outside of that it all falls apart. When I was still bothering to look - she was making lots of strange and uncharacteristic mistakes - errors in judgement, forgetting etc. when it came to her business. However I've totally detached, and haven't looked for well over a month and a half now.

In your case - let your WW move out, but she gets to do everything. All you can do and should do is put your feet up and relax. Better yet, go find some things to do with your kids. Once she's out - rearrange the place because it's yours. DBing is for you at this point.

In my particular case, there are no kids so I have almost zero contact with the W. The last time I did - it was extra weird, so I'd like to keep it to a minimum anyway.

Channel your anger (and sorrow) someplace - your kids cannot see it. Because it will get back to your WW and she will use it against you. Be on your best behavior - read Sandi's threads over and over. I read them at least once a week - there's a lot to absorb. Practice your "as if", it's going to be necessary and hard.

I'm very sorry for what's happening, you're in good company. It's just so sad that so many people are experiencing this sort of heartache.