NYGal: What now?

[NYGal]

W called again yesterday morning. We spoke for over an hour.

She said she's not with the ow anymore. Said she felt a lot of pressure from her to break up w me -- but quickly added that she's not blaming ow. Said how sorry she is, was very down on herself. I mostly listened, did some validating. She talked about how much she is enjoying understanding how the house and garden "work". (I used to do it all. Bad NYGal.) And that made her realize again all I did for us. She asked if I'm seeing anyone. I said, well, I'm spending time with someone, but we're not exactly dating. (That's true, btw.) She said people tell her I could never forgive her, and she's afraid of that. I said, and she agreed, that we're the only ones who know our relationship, and we each know the other better than anyone else. I also said, we'd have to work on the trust issue. I'd need to know ow is gone, that you're over ow, and there would be complete transparency for both of us. She said, yes, I know.

Then there were some texts. W: I feel like crying. Me: I'm sorry. W: It's not your fault. I've blown every opportunity I've ever had in my life. Me: What would make you feel better? W: our dogs. (So I sent a cute video of one of them and it made her laugh.)
With reference to me defending her on twitter about a job-related issue: W: Thanks for being my friend.
(Not sure I liked that so much -- I don't want to be just friends -- but I didn't respond.) Next text: W: You know I'm not ready to promise you anything yet, correct? And I assume the same thing regarding you.
Me: Yes, I know, and I understand why you feel that way. I'm not ready to make any promises yet either.

Another call from her later. W: Should I even consider that we could get back together? Me: Yes, let's take it slowly and see what happens.
W: I'm a cheater and I don't know why I did it. Me: I don't want to ever be with a cheater again, and I don't want this to ever happen do me again. W: I know. I still have to work on myself and understand why this happened.