Tim, just reading you response, Im thinking that I should just back away again b/c like someone said, this is just a rollercoaster. But I can't expect to be NC until H comes around and says he wants to come back...that's unrealistic to think he would just up and have the thought that he wants/needs to come home. So where do I draw the line between engaging contact and validating, DBing and not having expectations? I don't even know wht I'm saying.
It seems like the WASs that come back have lots of convos about the R before they do - it doesn't seem like they just waked up one morning and say, "I want to go back home!" So I guess in the meantime I keep making plans without H.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid and show up anyways."
