Wish I had some useful advice for you DBD, I have the anger and hostility from my W coupled with wanting to see me and open lines of communication. Wanting to come by the house when she told me before that she would only talk to me from the 'safety' of her own apartment.
I have been very confused lately as have my friends and family, it just feels like she is completely screwed up in her own head.
All I could say is keep on your own path. I think R talks should be initiated by W, we are to keep doing what we are doing and not try to analyse their behaviour too much. Something I struggle with but have been better since she left.
