I really am not sure what you are asking to be honest.
maybe you could explain better.
As far as her family. I get that you feel that they have been your only family during the marriage and now you feel pushed out, but to be honest. what did you really think would happen? did you think you would keep going to all of their stuff? Your W is their family not you. I know that is tough but true. I really doubt there was a big talk about inviting you to things. I am going to say it was prob them talking to her about everything and leaving t on her.
I also really dont think you removing yourself from one event caused all of this to happen.
i know it is hard but this is real.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15