Still hoping for progress II

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I just can't understand W and why there is very little hostility or anger at all shown. I can't even describe it, but its very unnerving. Maybe numb would be the word? She realizes that she broke my heart and that is part of the reason for being concerned with me.

It's hard to detach when W is acting like old W when things were ok. I keep getting sucked back in when we have interactions.

I know R talk is off limits. Especially after such a short amount of time separated. But when does it get discussed?

If my W was combative or mean hateful etc. All of the dbing principles would apply to her. I'm just not sure how to use them on my mild mannered, nice-to-me wife.

I am just at a loss as how to figure it out as are all my friends and siblings.