Cali - You are amazing and strong and a heck of a good dad. Reading your posts over the long haul you've been working hard to stay true to all the people that you love. You have much to be proud of and maybe now you don't have to stop loving your wife completely but perhaps you just need to love yourself more? That's ok to put yourself first and surrendering to a situation is not giving up hope that your STBX will find the strength to return to the best version of herself. It takes a lot of faith and love to let go and let God. Sometimes it is easier to focus on them relentlessly so we don't have to focus on ourselves.
Anyway you've got lots to look forward to in life. You're moving forward in a way that your son will respect and will leave room for lots of love, laughter and adventure. Peace my friend.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
