Just stopping in with a non update update. Nothing new going on in my sitch. Just living life with S4 the best I can. Hoping the weather breaks soon, I have much more GAL in my life when it's warm out.
On the XF front, nothing has changed. Still in a holding pattern staying dim. Not initiating contact for any reason but s4.
Going to go out with some friends tonight, not sure where but got a good crew together for a great night!
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Hey uphill. Might not post that much but I keep up here and there. Just let her be and see where things lead one way or another. Time will tell. I am curious what happened with the other girl you were texting though? Maybe I missed an update there.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Hey fogg, nice to see you around buddy! Yeah, time will tell where my life goes. For now it's all about S4 and myself, whoever wants to join us on this awesome ride is welcome to join! Haha
The new girl I was texting seemed to be at the point of being more serious or dropping off. This came to light about the same time as XF was showing serious interest in talking through things and trying us again (about a month ago). When that happened, I realized I wasn't over my feeling for XF, I really got pinning and spinning again. That made me chose to let the new girl go. I didn't want to complicate things for anybody, and I defiantly didn't want to hurt her by dragging her along any longer... I think it was the right choice for me no matter what the outcome, can't build a new relationship when the feelings are tearing thier head for XF. She got a bit angry, I just explained that I was being honest with her and didn't feel we should continue talking.
I wish her the best, she seemed like a really cool girl! Just bad timing.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
S4 and myself hit some egg hunts up, dye some eggs, had an absolute blast together this past week on his days with me. Yesterday was really funky to wake up and not have him at my house. Had to wait until early afternoon to see the look on his face when he found his Easter basket that the bunny left him. I have a feeling tomorrow will be a similar feeling, it is his birthday! So S4 will now be S5?!?! Where does time go? But anyway, I won't get to see him or give him the big hug and kiss he deserves...
Head up, taking on the world!
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
On the S4 topic, we have been having a blast whenever he is with me! I have been staying busy when he's not here. I find that to be my toughest times as of late. I wish I could snuggle him 7 days a week but at this point in time that is not possible.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I am still alive, just living life and making S4's as good as humanly possible. No changes in my sitch, just figured I would stop in since its been a while
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Hi V, how have you been? S4 got that hug early this morning!
I'll expand a little on my post from yesterday. There's much more than nothing going on in my life, I was just fairly busy at work yesterday when I checked in.
S4 and myself don't have time to sit around at all. We recently went and bought some new kayaks for when the water warms up. He is doing awesome playing baseball! (Proud dad ). He wearing the tires right off of his 4 wheeler... The two of us are just constantly doing something fun!
On the front with XF. Most of the month of February was a major false start. No dates or anything like that but a lot of talking on the phone and face to face. Some talks were about nothing, just being us and sharing our time with each other. Others were strictly business. Talking about what would need to happen for us to have another shot at this. Worked through many of the major issues, obviously not everything in a matter of a month. But we both had the same ideas on most things and it seemed to be headed in the direction I've been waiting for. It went as far as where to store her furniture if she were to move back and simple things like my new rugs not matching some things she would bring back...
Then the squirrel got spooked and ran back into the tree. Since February 29th she has her walls built back up and is back to hot cold cycles.we still have a fair amount of interactions for co-parenting but nothing much on a personal level. She will seem to start warming up a slight bit and then retreat. It put me back on the rollercoaster ride. Most days are good, some not so good. I have to get myself centered back up and not care again. That's when she started coming around before.
All in all I think I still stand a good chance at R with XF. Her A has been over since New Years (to my knowledge it has not relapsed). While talking in February, it was confirmed done, no contact sent and she changed jobs. Hopefully all that sticks and doesn't slip back and set me back no ha on this road!
I hope all is well with everybody, I will try to pop in from time to time.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
I will also add to some of the things that were discusseed. A few of the convo's she would cry the entire time, admitting how bad of choices she has made over the last year of her life and how bad those decisions affected many people. Realized there is lots of work for her to do on herself and the relationships with friends and family she had burned bridges with. I was seeing action to back the words up at the time but now I'm not sure if she continued working on hose things or not? I do know that for the first time in a long time, she has been picking S4 up at my parents house. Which is a HUGE hurdle for her to even be within 100 ft of my mom. From what my mom says she has been very pleasant every time.
Fingers crossed for continued progress while trying to keep any expectations low-non existant
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
WOW Uphill, that is great. Not as great as hearing you are piecing but it is certainly an improvement. I am really happy for you and while the patience to continue will of course require the patience of a saint you have made it so far already. Congratulations. I sincerely hope everything turns out great for the both of you in the long run. It is also wonderful how much time you are spending with your son. A friend of mine were talking last night about making memories for your kids. Even the smallest things matter and I am sure your S will have great memories to share with his children! Keep up the great work.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
