Hi Mleigh - that's a nice response from your h when you validated your son! It cracks me up how your h is still the property manager!! It's very sweet. He's reconnected with the house--LOL!!

When you validate your h in front of your s, don't be surprised if your h doesn't seem to react to it. I think sometimes they don't know how to take it? And be forewarned, sometimes they can even be cranky over it. This morning my h was going to take S12 to pick up some items for his school project. And I thought: great--something to validate! So I said: "hey, thanks for taking him to pick that stuff up!" His response (super cranky and with a nasty expression): "why wouldn't I? He's my son." I just walked on by. I was praising him not criticizing his parenting so his read was interesting. Clearly he doesn't realize that he was MIA for quite some time.

Anyway, just saying if your h takes it the wrong way or seems uncomfortable, don't be surprised. But your guy is a nice MLCer, so you may not have this issue.

This one would be super interesting: validating your h in front of your MIL!!!

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced