Broke, I'm very sorry that you had to learn the ugly news about your H. Please, if you haven't already done so, get yourself check out for STDs. I know it's not something you want to think about, but you don't know and your health is very important to you and your family.
As for your marriage being over, yes, it most likely is from what you've posted, but that doesn't mean you stop DBing. DBing is all about saving you and helping you navigate life and you will be able to use what you've learned here in the real world w/others.
Broke, no matter what happens, you are a success story. You fought the battle, you acted w/dignity and grace and yes, you have even been here to help others along the way. Never think for one minute that you can't help others while going through a divorce, because you can. You can see things that others can't when they post, so please continue to post. You are going to need support during the preparation for divorce and yes, even after you divorce. Why? Because it's still a shock to you and there many here who will be more than happy to help you along the way.
Broke, the next chapter of your Life's Book is waiting to be written. As Scarlett once said "tomorrow is another day" and she was so right about that. You are going to be fine, but you need to get through the bumps and ruts in the road to the other side of the finish line. Once you are there, you'll discover how much the weight is lifted once things are finalized. But, I'm getting ahead of your next chapter.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
