Heather, I don't blame you for not responding to Cali's text about her father stating that granny is waiting for a response. Cali opened the door on this one and now she's got to figure things out. After all, she is now 21 and considered an adult and she needs to learn to make adult decisions and not rely on everyone else bailing her out each time she goes down into the rabbit hole. I know it hurts to see your daughter in this situation, but sometimes tough love is the only way to go. You love her, you tell her you love her, but she's got to get herself out of the mess she's now created on her own.
Heather, you have worked too hard to allow Matt, Cali and his family to draw you back into their drama. Step way back and love her from afar. And, yes, I do remember how Cali tends to throw people under the bus when she is desperate...don't go down into the rabbit hole w/her. She has to hit bottom before she'll surface again.
Continue w/your life and be there for Louisa. I know you'll stay in touch w/Cali, but be careful in what you post to her. I would hate to see her throw you under the bus again.
I'm very sorry that her situation hasn't improved. I had such high hopes that she would get her life together. I still pray that she will...but again, no one can help her until she helps herself and that may be hitting bottom very hard and realizing that she have lost a lot along the way.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
