Good job! Now when she sees it Monday, be prepared for any type of reaction. By prepare, I mean that you do not let her draw you into a R talk. She may not have much to say, or she could say something very sarcastic. Your job will be to stay Mr. Cool and not react.
Btw, since you have seen the inside of her new apartment, I think it would be to your advantage to not go inside when you are there to pick up S13. If he has a cell phone, you can text him when you drive up to the building.
I think it may help you right now, while you are trying to detach. If she invites you inside, politely decline. Don't accept invitations to have a cup of coffee, eat fresh baked goodies, or use your manly muscles to help her with something. It may be good to make it a point to be looking at something on your phone, or texting, looking at FB, you know.......looking busy and a bit preoccupied. You might flash her a smile, or even throw your hand up in a short wave........but something seems to have your attention while you are waiting for S13 to get inside the car. You may not understand the reasons behind all of this, but it actually makes you appear a little mysterious to your W. All she knows is that you aren't interested in having a couple of minutes with her, when only a short time ago you were desperately wanting her attention. See? It doesn't take much to be mysterious to a woman, b/c most females are naturally curious anyway. Oh, and always look happy. That will get her wheels turning, too. I know, you are thinking, "But what if she gets the idea I am happy she's left me"? Hummmm, what if she does? That's the thing she needs to be wondering about it. You guys are so afraid she will give up or think you don't want her back..........when actually that's what works in getting her interest and attraction in you jump started.
When you return S13, make sure you look smoking hot and in just a bit of a hurry to get somewhere.
Now, when she comes to your house to get S13, don't try to stop her from entering, b/c that was her home where a lot of memories were made. So when she goes inside, it could be a trigger to some of those feelings and aid in helping her miss those good times and the family atmosphere.......and of course, she has given that away and is now learning you are not going to play as if you all are still one big happy family.
When she goes to your house, she should see a clean, organized, and happy setting. Plenty of light, happy music in the background, and good smells in the air.
Don't tell S13 something to give him the idea any of this is to impress his mom. Never say anything about looking good for when mom gets there, or have the house cleaned before she comes, etc. Why? B/c she is going to pump him for information!! If you don't connect her name with any of this stuff you are doing, then S13 won't be able to tell her he thinks it is still all about her, right? Are getting what I am saying?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
