Way Too Late Pt 3

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Whatever it was, you can bet she was thinking of only herself. I realize some folks immediately jump at believing she was considering reconciliation, however I highly doubt her objective was to work on a MR with you. For whatever reason, she temporarily saw more profit or security in remaining legally married. Later, she had a change of mind.

I base this on the typical pattern of attitude & behavior of a wayward wife, and the fact your W has given zero signs that would indicate wanting another chance at a "relationship" with you.

When a LBH is dealing directly, or indirectly, with his WW.........the first thing he needs to do is to remember what drives the wayward. Pure selfishness! She looks at everything to see what's in it for her. If there is nothing in it for her......she doesn't want it.

Thanks Sandi, that confirms what the L was thinking - she didn't like the fact that she probably hadn't weighed issues such as spousal support being as high as it is.

Wanting to move to arbitration would do me zero favors in this regard, and as I mentioned earlier - I would have been all for a mediator at the beginning, but never would have found out about her other bank account for example.

It's painfully obvious she's thinking of nothing but herself, and is now doubling down and doing the exact opposite of what she asked for.